If you’re a naturally bittersweet type, you have a head start; you’re constitutionally primed to feel the tug of impermanence. Another way to get there is simply to wait for middle age, which seems to carry some of the psychological benefits of aging without the downsides of your body falling apart.
Susan Cain
Bittersweet, Impermanence, Aging, Psychological Benefits, Personality
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“Most great ideas spring from solitude.” Susan Cain
Solitude, Creativity, Ideas, Introspection, Inspiration
Susan Cain Solitude, Creativity, Ideas, Introspection, Inspiration“Cross the street to avoid making aimless chitchat with random acquaintances.” Susan Cain
Avoidance, Small Talk, Social Strategies, Introverted Behavior, Personal Comfort
Susan Cain Avoidance, Small Talk, Social Strategies, Introverted Behavior, Personal Comfort“Anyone can be a great negotiator, I told them, and in fact it often pays to be quiet and gracious, to listen more than talk, and to have an instinct for harmony rather than conflict. With this style, you can take aggressive positions without inflaming your counterpart’s ego. And by listening, you can learn what’s truly motivating the person you’re negotiating with and come up with creative solutions that satisfy both parties.” Susan Cain
Negotiation Skills, Listening Techniques, Gracious Approach, Harmonious Relations, Creative Solutions
Susan Cain Negotiation Skills, Listening Techniques, Gracious Approach, Harmonious Relations, Creative Solutions“Professor Richard Howard gave introverts and extroverts a complicated series of printed mazes, and found not only that the introverts tended to solve more mazes correctly, but also that they spent a much greater percentage of their allotted time inspecting the maze before entering it.” Susan Cain
Richard Howard, Maze Study, Introverts, Problem-solving, Attention To Detail
Susan Cain Richard Howard, Maze Study, Introverts, Problem-solving, Attention To Detail“Shyness is about the fear of social judgments - at a job interview or a party you might be excessively worried about what people think of you. Whereas an introvert might not feel any of those things at all, they simply have the preference to be in a quieter setting.” Susan Cain
Shyness, Social Judgments, Introversion, Quiet Preference, Social Anxiety
Susan Cain Shyness, Social Judgments, Introversion, Quiet Preference, Social Anxiety“Introverts are not smarter than extroverts. According to IQ scores, the two types are equally intelligent. And on many kinds of tasks, particularly those performed under time or social pressure or involving multitasking, extroverts do better. Extroverts are better than introverts at handling information overload.” Susan Cain
Intelligence, Extroverts, Introverts, Task Performance, Information Overload
Susan Cain Intelligence, Extroverts, Introverts, Task Performance, Information Overload“Psychopaths and heroes are twigs on the same genetic branch.” Susan Cain
Psychopathy, Heroism, Genetic Factors, Personality Traits, Moral Psychology
Susan Cain Psychopathy, Heroism, Genetic Factors, Personality Traits, Moral Psychology“Don’t mistake assertiveness or eloquence for good ideas.” Susan Cain
Assertiveness, Eloquence, Idea Evaluation, Communication Skills, Critical Thinking
Susan Cain Assertiveness, Eloquence, Idea Evaluation, Communication Skills, Critical Thinking“The most effective leaders are not motivated by a desire to control events or to be in the spotlight. They are motivated by the desire to advance ideas and new ways of looking at the world, or to improve the situation of a group of people. These motivations belong to introverts and extroverts alike. You can achieve these same goals – you can be inspiring and motivational – without compromising your quiet ways.” Susan Cain
Effective Leadership, Introverts, Extroverts, Motivation, Social Impact
Susan Cain Effective Leadership, Introverts, Extroverts, Motivation, Social Impact“Our schools should teach children the skills to work with others—cooperative learning can be effective when practiced well and in moderation—but also the time and training they need to deliberately practice on their own.” Susan Cain
Educational Approaches, Cooperative Learning, Independent Work, Skill Development, Teaching Strategies
Susan Cain Educational Approaches, Cooperative Learning, Independent Work, Skill Development, Teaching Strategies“What is the inner behavior of people whose most visible feature is that when you take them to a party they aren’t very pleased about it?” Susan Cain
Social Discomfort, Introverted Behavior, Party Dynamics, Emotional Responses, Self-awareness
Susan Cain Social Discomfort, Introverted Behavior, Party Dynamics, Emotional Responses, Self-awareness“Why shouldn’t quiet be strong? And what else can quiet do that we don’t give it credit for?” Susan Cain
Strength In Quietness, Introverted Power, Undervalued Qualities, Reflection, Potential
Susan Cain Strength In Quietness, Introverted Power, Undervalued Qualities, Reflection, Potential“I don’t really like being the guest at someone else’s party, because then I have to be entertaining. But I’ll host parties because it puts you at the center of things without actually being a social person.” Susan Cain
Party Dynamics, Introverted Preferences, Social Comfort, Hosting, Entertainment
Susan Cain Party Dynamics, Introverted Preferences, Social Comfort, Hosting, Entertainment“Aron has noted that sensitive people tend to speak softly because that’s how they prefer others to communicate with them.” Susan Cain
Sensitivity, Communication, Softly Spoken, Preferred Styles, Personal Connection
Susan Cain Sensitivity, Communication, Softly Spoken, Preferred Styles, Personal Connection“Prolonged acting out of character may also increase autonomic nervous system activity, which can, in turn, compromise immune functioning.” Susan Cain
Acting Out Of Character, Nervous System, Immune Function, Psychological Stress, Health Implications
Susan Cain Acting Out Of Character, Nervous System, Immune Function, Psychological Stress, Health Implications“So don’t mistake your child’s caution in new situations for an inability to relate to others. He’s recoiling from novelty or overstimulation, not from human contact.” Susan Cain
Child Behavior, Caution, Introversion, Novelty, Social Interaction
Susan Cain Child Behavior, Caution, Introversion, Novelty, Social Interaction“Solitude matters, and for some people, it’s the air they breathe.” Susan Cain
Solitude, Personal Space, Introvert Needs, Self-care, Mental Health
Susan Cain Solitude, Personal Space, Introvert Needs, Self-care, Mental Health“Finally, pay attention to what you envy. Jealousy is an ugly emotion, but it tells the truth.” Susan Cain
Jealousy, Emotional Awareness, Self-reflection, Truth-seeking, Envy
Susan Cain Jealousy, Emotional Awareness, Self-reflection, Truth-seeking, Envy“Use your natural powers – of persistence, concentration, and insight – to do work you love and work that matters. Solve problems, make art, and think deeply.” Susan Cain
Natural Powers, Persistence, Concentration, Meaningful Work, Creativity
Susan Cain Natural Powers, Persistence, Concentration, Meaningful Work, Creativity“Highly sensitive people also process information about their environments – both physical and emotional – unusually deeply. They tend to notice subtleties that others miss – another person’s shift in mood, say, or a lightbulb burning a touch too brightly.” Susan Cain
Highly Sensitive, Information Processing, Emotional Subtleties, Environmental Awareness, Noticing Details
Susan Cain Highly Sensitive, Information Processing, Emotional Subtleties, Environmental Awareness, Noticing Details